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This is a wonderful space to leave comments about a personal experience with D-MER or to share a story about working with a D-MER mother.

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Emma said:   March 21, 2017 12:38 pm PST
I have had a similar feeling of validation and recognition when reading about D-MER with the great exception that I am not a mother. I have had these exact symptoms moderately since my teens. It took me years to understand the bizarre connection between washing or touching my nipples and feeling momentarily depressed. It does not seem to be recognized as a condition for non-mothers, so in case there are some non-mothers here: You are also not crazy, it is not a hidden sexual trauma or over-sensitive/sore nipples. I am happy to see that some of you only had D-MER with some of your children, as it suggests that the condition can change. As for now it is easy to live with, but if I ever choose to have children I do wonder if I would be able to breastfeed. Hope to see more research on D-MER in the future!

Cassandra said:   February 24, 2017 4:26 pm PST
I was unable to breastfeed my first child so felt very happy to breastfeed my second. A few weeks in I realized something wasn't right. I wanted to run and hide and felt disgusting whenever my milk let down. Afterwards I was fine. After many agonizing feeds I was able to pinpoint the feeling as being one of very strong nostalgia. I have always been that type of person, so it didn't surprise me when I finally found a name for it. D-mer. This website soothed me and made me feel like a strong mother for perserving through this. It is now 5 1/2 years later and my son is happy and healthy in most ways. He is delayed a bit and has a lot of autistic markers. I'm wondering if there is a link between d-mer and the autism spectrum. I know it sounds far fetched but curious if anyone has actually researched d-mer that thoroughly.

Chelsey said:   December 13, 2016 10:14 am PST
I'm breastfeeding my third child, and didn't experience this the first two times. I didn't even know it was a thing, until I was getting these feelings, particularly when I pumped at work. I thought it was depression from the birth control, but when I stopped the medication and my emotions returned to normal, I was still feeling uneasy when I pumped. I just happened to stumble across an article on social network about d-mer, and am SO relieved that I'm not the only one with these feelings and that they even have a NAME. I'm on my way to becoming a breastfeeding counselor, and I'll be sure to look out for d-mer in other mothers. Thank you so much for your work, and I hope this ends up in the DSM someday.

Clara KB said:   September 19, 2016 12:42 am PST
Thank you so much for your work. Understanding what's going on really helps! I suffered from mild D-MER when breastfeeding my first child and it took me months to figure out that it was something physiological, not psychological. Now breastfeeding baby number 2, I know I can simply ignore these feelings of emptiness and sadness. It makes the whole thing much more manageable. Thanks again!

VW said:   July 19, 2016 9:18 pm PST
A truly amazing site!! I'm a strong LLL advocate & supporter, and I never knew about this until a friend led me to your site. In turn, I led a friend of mine who had horrible feelings during breastfeeding to this site which made her understand it all!! Now since she knows she has low vitmain B levels, she is going to try supplements first before considering weaning her 9 month old daughter. More information needs to spread about D-MER to help other mothers know that they're not alone and that there are things you Can do to help it.

Jutta said:   July 9, 2016 12:49 am PST
I am so grateful to have found information today about D-MER for the first time in my life! My daughters are 15 and 16 now and with both of them I suffered from D-Mer. I never found anything about it, nowhere! I breastfed the older one for 8 months and the younger one for 6 months anyway. I am looking for this information today because I now suffer from similar waves of depression that are FOR SURE physiologically and not psychologically induced during climacteric. It started a couple of days ago and I have not had this feeling since I was breastfeeding so many years ago. I just now ordered Rhodiola and I hope that will help. Thank you agoin for putting up this website! Greetings from Germany, Jutta

Jessica C said:   June 1, 2016 7:47 am PST
I work for a non-profit community breastfeeding center, our MD sent us to this site. I had never heard of this before, but thinking back to some previous clients I think I've come across it! Thank you for sharing.

Omara said:   May 31, 2016 6:01 am PST
I cannot believe this! I am so happy that I found this page! I swear my dopamine level are high right now!!! I thought something was so wrong with me because I knew it wasn't PPD because it only lasted a couple of minutes and then it went away! I thought I was wired wrong or something! Thank you so much for creating this website! Educating myself about this disorder is the way I'll get treated! I'll speak to my doctor about this next time I go! Thanks again!

Kirsten said:   October 15, 2015 6:17 am PST
Thank you for doing the work of this website. It's so important to share our stories and get the word out about this important and painful experience. If men felt this way about something that they did regularly, there would be a whole field researching it by now. My birth daughter is 7 months old and my DMER is worse than it was at 2 months. It's painful, recurring, and so sad.

Tiffany Philpott said:   September 15, 2015 3:48 am PST
I'm so happy to have come across this website and to have a reasonable explanation as to the way I feel. Whenever I start to breastfeed I feel overwhelmed in sadness, I just want to cry, I think horrible thoughts about myself, this lasts up to a couple of minutes but it's long enough to have a lasting effect after I've finished feeding. I've shared this website on my Facebook in the hope other mums find this useful.

anon said:   August 28, 2015 7:30 pm PST
"Homesickness" . . . .that's how I used to describe the feeling! Exactly. But when I was having it, I could tell so clearly that it was just 'mones. (hormones). I used to say, "I don't get all blissed out from breastfeeding; I'm wired wrong."

Sarah said:   July 23, 2015 4:39 am PST
wow! I am so surprised that this exists! I am nursing my 3rd son, he is 8 weeks old. I started noticing a "strange" feeling of uneasy right before my milk lets down, but only when im not feeding him, its about 1 minute before it happens...but like I said, it only happens when im not feeding him, & not when im pumping either, only when it leaks...the feeling goes away as soon as the let down begins, its brief, but weird for me. SO glad I have an answer as this is the first time ive dealt with it, I nursed my first 2 sons their first year and never experienced this.

alelekins said:   July 21, 2015 9:13 pm PST
i am so happy to finally found answers to my questions for the longest time in this site. i've been breastfeeding my LO for more than 6months now and since day 1, i have felt that sadness upon let down. and today, i have found the perfect term to describe that sadness, DYSPHORIA. i am more than happy to know that this a physiological and not a psychological effect of breastfeeding. though, it never occur to me to stop breastfeeding/pumping because of this negative emotion but ironic as it may seem, this is the only negative emotion that i look forward to because this cues my milk release. i never have any issue with milk supply. i was just wondering why i feel so "heartbroken" everytime my let down comes. thank you so much for shedding much light to my worries. for now, i will just tell myself, "this too shall pass" til the day i'll stop breastfeeding/pumping.

Andrea said:   July 2, 2015 12:08 pm PST
My 4th child is now 1 week old. It may be too early to diagnosis success but I am so happy with my birthing experience. I had D-MER with my 3rd child, and extreme postpartum depression with all 3 previous children. I decided to do everything I could this time around to work toward a different outcome postpartum. I chose to have a home birth in order to extremely reduce the possibility of medical intervention-things like being induced, pitocin, etc, and to be in a positive, loving, caring environment. It was possibly the best decision I've ever made for myself. Also, for the last 2 months of my pregnancy I took a high dose of vit b, and EPA and DHA fish oil. And I cut gluten from my diet, trying to reduce any cause of inflammation in my body. I was willing to do anything to not experience D-MER again, or postpartum depression. If you are reading these comments you know what I mean. It is such a terrible time, heartbreaking to be a new mom and feeling so very bad. I am posting this just to say that maybe there's a correlation between something I did and the outcome I have had. I hope it encourages someone to look into pitocin as a cause, or vit b and fish oil, or gluten. Or if you have experienced this in the past that maybe it could be different next time and it's worth exploring options and doing everything you can.

Rachrl said:   May 15, 2015 3:19 pm PST
I am so happy to have found an explanation (a sane one) for these fleeting feelings. I tried to explain it to my psychiatrist when my twins were first born and explained the feeling as if I were on a roller coaster and my stomach "dropped out" but reading it explained as the feeling of "homesickness" hit it right on the head for me! I am so thankful for this website as my doctor didn't have much to say about my feelings, and we simply moved on. I still experience this with every feeding and pumping but have not given up- my boys are 5months old. It helps to realize that the feelings go away soon after starting to feed/pump.

Mary said:   March 4, 2015 12:20 pm PST
Thank you for the post and for everybody for sharing their story. After giving birth both times, I had depression, anxiety, paranoia, etc. The doctors all told me that it was postpartum depression but after reading the messages above and doing some research on D-mer, I am starting to wonder if this could be the problem. The tablets for postpartum depression do not work. I have just recently, about four days ago, stopped breastfeeding my baby because the doctor said the medication I am on is bad for her. The problem is that since I have stopped breastfeeding, all the symptoms are worse than before - is this normal? Has this happened to anyone else? I also get the empty nauseous feeling in my stomach, the anger, the irritability and yes when I was breastfeeding, the feeling would go away. Does anyone know how many times the breasts let down during the day or does that determine on the amount the baby drinks? I also get angry and aggressive and have a feeling of pressure in my breasts when my baby cries or when she gets fussy and wants to drink, is this normal for women who have D-mer? Thanks again for your write up! Regards, Mary

D-MER with 3rd child said:   February 4, 2015 7:03 pm PST
I LOVED breastfeeding with my first two. Come home from work, nurse and feel all my worries disappear. With my 3rd, I wanted to die. It felt like my insides were being turned inside-out or like in the cartoons when ones spirit is taken from a body. Since I had nursed the first two until they were each two years old, not wanting to deprive the 3rd of such richness, I continued. At about one year, when he was eating more food than nursing, the worst of it had subsided. The less milk, the less "bad" feeling while nursing. He is just over two and I no longer have any "bad" feeling, but I don't get any "good" feeling while nursing either. Can't believe I can finally explain my problem without sounding crazy!

AprilShowers said:   December 24, 2014 8:49 am PST
I have 4 children. I gave up breastfeeding with my first two because of feeling a "surge" of rage and seeing red w/ anger before letdown. It was devastating!!! I love breastfeeding and I HAD to quit!! I found out after my 3rd baby that I have ADD. I was breastfeeding her at the time. The aderall I was taking for Add made the feelings non existent! Yay! Now I'm on my 4th child four years later, and these feelings are back;( I am still on aderall and might have to increase the dose;( Thank you for this website!!! I have shared it on pintrest because so many people are probably suffering with this and have no idea whats going on!! It's also nice to see other people that have had to deal with this. I know now i'm not alone!!

michelle said:   September 25, 2014 3:42 pm PST
I wish I had known about this 3 months ago before I gave up on breast feeding. I totally thought my anxiety, anxiousness, and resentment while nursing was me being a terrible mother. I will remember this next go round so I can take action if it happens again.

kinsmade said:   September 18, 2014 11:14 pm PST
The anxiety I feel while breastfeeding is like a protective momma bear who smells an approaching cougar in the air. Having anyone around me & baby makes me nervous and on the edge of my seat. I feel like fleeing or hiding. I've actually wanted to growl at someone for invading my space while I'm nursing. Doesn't help that mother-in-law lifts my cover to play with the sucking baby! Ugh!

Ell said:   August 15, 2014 10:24 pm PST
I had moderate to severe D-MER with my last child, and I am glad this site exists. However, I have one serious criticism of how the information is presented: I don't think it is helpful or appropriate to insinuate that the appropriate course of action is always to continue to breastfeed. Stating that formula feeding is supposedly "more risky" than all other treatment options (including taking bupropion) is very one-sided and, at best, does not reflect the full extent of the scientific debate on the effects of breastfeeding vs. formula feeding in the developed world. In any case, without wanting to get into a discussion of breastfeeding, it is clear that weaning your child is a 100% effective way to end D-MER with no risk to the mother (and, as many researchers would argue, no discernible risk to the baby as long as there is access to formula and safe water). Of course, every effort should be made to develop and research treatment options for D-MER that are compatible with breastfeeding, as many mothers want to breastfeed very much. No woman should have to stop breastfeeding before she is ready. However, this is a very personal decision that depends on how a woman feels about breastfeeding, how severely she is affected by her D-MER, and how she feels about other options available to her (personally, I would definitely wean before taking a drug such as bupropion for a condition that can easily be resolved by weaning). No one but the individual mother can weigh these factors and decide which steps are appropriate for her. I would respect this site a lot more if it were able to present all possible treatment options, including weaning, in a neutral way and trust women to make the right decision for themselves. Weaning is simply one option among several for women who suffer from D-MER. For a site that wants to help women suffering from D-MER find information and explore their options, it is not appropriate to present only some of these options as acceptable.

momof3 said:   July 22, 2014 7:00 am PST
I had D-MER mildly with my first breastfed child. I emailed my sister what I was feeling one day because I thought something was wrong with me. She took what I said and googled the symptoms and found this website. Matching symptom for symptom. I was elated that I wasnt just depressed but that it was actual hormone malfunction! My biggest question is, does it effect your milk supply? I never had enough milk for my son. I breast fed until 15 months and he would NOT take a bottle. Im due with my next baby and am sad to see it will probably happen again with this one. I can endure the sad hopeless feelings the short time they happen each feeding but im really worried its what's causing my milk supply to be low. I have a lactation consultant lined up to help me this time around. Im soooo glad awareness is being raised since none of my midwives/drs have heard of this. It feels awful knowing there isnt a health professional in your corner. Please, any D-MER moms out there with low milk supply problems? Im praying the two are NOT related.

Jessica jewett said:   July 14, 2014 7:23 pm PST
Hello! It's really nice to know that I'm not the only one. This is the only website I could really find much of anything which makes it hard to convince lactation specialists as well as my ob that something is different with me when I breastfeed. I'm close to giving up and going to bottles full time. It's my last resort, but I'm not getting any help whatsoever. I do have one question though, does it last longer than a few seconds with any of you? I feel like the feeling persists more than half the time I breastfeed. I guess I'm going to try the Rhodiola rosea seeing how I can just order that online. Are there any prescription names that anyone knows of? Thank you!

Kelly M. said:   July 6, 2014 10:28 am PST
Does anyone else notice that when they get overheated the d-mer is much more severe? I just moved to a warmer climate and my rhodiola rosea seems to have lost it's effect. As soon as I feel the heat of the day I have continuous "rolling" d-mer episodes. I have resorted to carrying a fan around with me when I do not have AC. Any insight would be great!

Claudine said:   July 4, 2014 5:06 pm PST
Thank you SO very much for your web site and your work. I raised this issue to my OB and Pediatrician after my first child. Both looked at me like I was crazy and told me I had a risk for PPD. I knew it was associated with the milk expression because it would happen while pumping as well as nursing and then would go away. It was so prominant with my first that I eventually stopped, but not until after taking the domperidon that you also describe as a counterproductive drug. I am really glad to have found this information. It is really helping me understand what is happening to me and is helping me get through this 2nd feeding experience. I am, however, really shocked that my doctors have NO idea about this condition.

Maria said:   May 13, 2014 9:50 pm PST
I, like all the other moms on here am so thankful for your work with this project. I experienced this condition for the first time in 2007 and was only able to nurse my son for 6 months because of it. With my second child I experienced it stronger and only nursed her for 3 months. I am wondering if it is come for this condition to gets worse with each child because I just had my third child three weeks ago and it has been very difficult. The feelings are so intense and very frequent. I am praying that I am able to feed him for at least a few months, but each time I experience the feeling I feel like that is the last time I will nurse him. Thank God it goes away within a couple minutes.

Catholica said:   April 16, 2014 1:40 pm PST
Hi, someone forwarded me your website. I had never heard of this before and so glad there's information about this problem. We might want you to come down to speak at a conference--not sure how that would work...God Bless.

Helen said:   April 4, 2014 2:35 am PST
Thank you for this site. I had my first child in 2001 and thought i was the only person in the world who felt this way. :)

Hannah said:   April 2, 2014 7:51 pm PST
I am SO thankful to have found this site and a condition to what I feel! With my first child almost 5 years ago I started experiencing horrific anxiety attacks (something I had never experienced before) on day 4 when my milk came in......because I didn't put 2 and 2 together I suffered terribly until I was able to get on some medicine. Once the medicine was in my system I was able to nurse for 9 months with no effects! However, I just gave birth 2 weeks ago to my second child and was very proactive this time.....yet I discovered my anxiety started within 24 hours of birth and this time connected the dots that everytime I fed or even thought about feeding I would have these surges in my body and subsequently an anxiety attack would follow, thus having constant attacks through the day! Right now I'm taking Zoloft which is helping the attacks, however the evenings are the hardest when I feel those surges.

Hannah said:   April 2, 2014 7:50 pm PST
I am SO thankful to have found this site and a condition to what I feel! With my first child almost 5 years ago I started experiencing horrific anxiety attacks (something I had never experienced before) on day 4 when my milk came in......because I didn't put 2 and 2 together I suffered terribly until I was able to get on some medicine. Once the medicine was in my system I was able to nurse for 9 months with no effects! However, I just gave birth 2 weeks ago to my second child and was very proactive this time.....yet I discovered my anxiety started within 24 hours of birth and this time connected the dots that everytime I fed or even thought about feeding I would have these surges in my body and subsequently an anxiety attack would follow, thus having constant attacks through the day! Right now I'm taking Zoloft which is helping the attacks, however the evenings are the hardest when I feel those surges.

Kelly M. said:   March 26, 2014 7:58 am PST
RHODIOLA ROSEA WORKS!!!!! I just had my second child and feel that I am so lucky to share that the DMER I experienced with my first child and started to experience with my second is now so mild I HARDLY NOTICE. With my first, I had severe let downs and a very large milk supply. Strong feelings of depression, nausea and anger for minutes at a time EVERY time my milk let down throughout the day. Nursing was just awful and I felt helpless. I tried acupuncture, nothing. When my son was about 9 months old I tried Rhodiola Rosea as recommended by this website. I ordered capsules online and take two a day. I immediately noticed my DMER had become quite mild. Part of me thought it was due to being so far along in the nursing process HOWEVER I just had my second child in December. I started out taking rhodiola to see if I could head off the nursing issues. It worked!!!! So, to prove my theory about 3 weeks into nursing I stopped taking rhodiola just to check if it was the herb that was helping or just the pregnancy/postnatal experience being different. 1-2 days in my DMER was back, severely. Just like last pregnancy. A day later I started back on rhodiola and to this day (my child is now 3.5 months) my DMER is so mild I hardly notice. I actually get feelings of euphoria now when nursing. (Also, it has not affected my milk supply) Thank you to whoever first thought of and or tried out rhodiola and posted it to this site. I hope my story will help others find a solution faster and more simply than I did. Good luck! Kelly M. - Mendocino, California

Samantha said:   March 20, 2014 12:21 am PST
I suffered D-MER severely and it took a mental health professional to give me an article on it several months in, for me to feel believed that something strange was happening to me each time I fed. Would love to get involved in raising awareness of this. Every community nurse should know about it, as I raised it and got told to breathe through it and suggested it was all in my mind...

Donna Brown said:   March 6, 2014 10:15 am PST
Hi everyone, My name is Donna Brown, I am a Public Health Nurse and a Lactation Consultant in the Niagara Region. I first heard about this phenomenon during the 2013 Gold Lactation Conference. After reflecting on this and my personal experience I couldn't help but wonder if this condition may have something to do with Systemic Candida. It is estimated that possibly 80% of the population may be affected by this. Systemic Candida is basically mold (yeast) in the body. How does yeast get in the body? It can be transmitted in various ways such as: to the fetus in utero, through the gut when our healthy bacteria are not well established/ depleted due to antibiotics/medications or passed on via saliva/ blood through intimate partners. Yeast occurs naturally in the gut and on our bodies. It usually does not pose a problem as our immune system holds it at bay, however when conditions right, it can overgrow beyond what our immune system can handle thus causing various physical and mental problems. What causes yeast to over grow? Yeast overgrows when our blood sugar rises. During periods of hormonal change such as puberty, pregnancy, post-partum and menopause our blood sugar levels rise, add in stress and a diet high in sugar/gluten and conditions are ripe for overgrowth. When yeast overgrows it releases an alcohol that is neurotoxic to the brain causing symptoms such as anxiety, depression, inability to focus/concentrate, irritability, poor memory, etc. Could it be that women suffering from Dysmorphic Milk Ejection Reflex have elevated Candida levels? This may explain why women feel these symptoms during let down. During letdown the body releases Oxytocin that causes a spike in blood sugar. Could this be triggering yeast in the body thus causing the symptoms identified above? Hope this was helpful!

Amy said:   February 15, 2014 5:46 pm PST
This site is AMAZING. When I had my first child last September, my plan was to breastfeed, and I truly thought I would until he was 2. Breastfeeding was really hard for me because when it was time to feed or pump, I would get filled with terrible anxiety and dread. I would feel scared, cold and just lost. I am so glad I read about D-MER, and I know I am not alone. I stopped producing milk when he was 5 weeks, but I tried the best I could. Thank you for talking about this and helping so many families understand!

Erin said:   January 27, 2014 4:54 pm PST
I am really thrilled to find this information. I have had four children and nursed them all. I remember reading in What to Expect, or some other preparatory literature, that mothers often felt tired before milk let down. Since I had my first child, I always felt like I was going to cry right before my milk lets down. In fact, I could and have cried. I also would describe the feeling as sort of homesickness or something. It is closest to that but it is also tied to a sort of good feeling about the baby? I figured it was hormonal, (after four kids--) but my doctor seemed tot think I was a bit strange? I don't think my case is very severe, but it helps to have an explanation!

Lucie said:   January 5, 2014 2:08 pm PST
Thank you for this site. I experienced D-MER whilst nursing both my children. For me it was (is) quite mild, or my response to it is mild probably because I have had anxiety and bouts of depression my whole life so am used to 'managing' negative emotions. As for many women mine presents as a thirst, sinking feeling, slight nausea, longing (like when I was a child and wanted my mum if I was staying at a friend's house), then goes after about 1 minute. I am amazed to find that other women experience these same feelings when breast feeding but that I have never heard of D-MER before. There is a huge push towards breast feeding in Sheffield where I live but no one has ever mentioned D-MER nor have I read about it anywhere. I can imagine it puts many women off breast feeding as it is such an intimate and intense feeling. Hoorah for this website, I'm telling everyone including my local baby clinic!

Erika said:   November 25, 2013 8:46 pm PST
This site helped me immensely and finally gave me validation for all I had been experiencing and feeling. I did stop breast feeding because of the extremety of my D-MER and it was really disheartening. I'm trying to move past it all, but I still wonder if the feelings would have subsided after a few more months?? Did anyone's ever get better? Or has anyone ever relactated and found that their hormones did not react the same? I know I made the right decision at the time to stop. It was far too horrible for me and it was taking away from me being present with my toddler and newborn. But, it's still hard to heal from the whole experience and the fact that I didn't get to continue to breast feed. I'm a much better mommy to my boys now and have such relief and happiness since stopping the let downs. I just hope time will continue to heal the disheartened.

Dr V said:   November 7, 2013 2:02 pm PST
I am a family physician who has just recently learned about D-MER in one of my recently delivered Mom's (diagnosed by her lactation consultant!), and this week I realized that another patient's terrible depression after her second child was in fact D-MER -- she did improve emotionally with sertraline, and 18 months later, is breastfeeding without any dysphoric feelings. My question is if anyone knows if there is a ICD-9 code for the diagnosis of Dysphoric Milk Ejection reflex? I cannot find one.

MrsSmith said:   October 29, 2013 9:24 am PST
Just wanted to give an update. My son is a few days shy of 11 months and we are still nursing!!! I did wean myself off the Welbutrin around 7 months once I realized the meds were making me lose my hair. Surprisingly, once weaned I didn't feel the effects of the D-MER. When I did it was minimal. Yay! Thank you again, I know I never would have nursed to this point without this site.

Katie said:   October 20, 2013 3:10 am PST
I can't believe this is a real condition! I'm a midwife and I just thought I was reacting to oxytocin. I have talked opening about this since my first baby in 2008. My husband knows that when I turn into the poltergeist after letdown, to just ignore me as it will pass! Unfortunately, I never made it past 4 months with previous two babies in 2008 & 2009 but am hoping now armed with some current info I can make it longer. I feel such relief hearing that I am not the only one who has battled through this. I used to tell women in hospital about it in case any woman felt this way too after going home with bub. Not in a Debbie Downer way!!! Lol. My symptoms were severe irritability, anxiety and anger. As with letdown, there are a few other triggers. I couldn't let my baby cry either as that triggered it as well. I realised what it had to do with and have accepted it but find it hasn't left since my first baby. Just the severity. So now having this information prior to delivering my 3rd bub in December is very empowering and I am so happy I have read this.

Michelle said:   October 12, 2013 8:05 pm PST
Thank you so much for this site. While I haven't breastfed for 9 months now, I attempted to during the two day stay in the hospital after #3 was born. I had no idea what was going on with me and why I was feeling so horribly during breastfeeding. I knew I just couldn't do it anymore, because the depression was just too much. I am so glad that I was not the only one going through this and that others here understand. What's sad is that when I told the nurses and doctors about D-MER, they had no clue what I was talking about. We need to educate others on this, and I hope by sharing it on my blog, that will help, if not, just a little. Thank you.

Heather said:   September 13, 2013 12:57 pm PST
When I gave birth to my baby I decided that I wanted to breast feed her. My mom had breast fed and some other people I knew had as well successfully. About a week after my daughter was born I noticed that I was extremely irritable and sad during the duration of all my daughter's feedings. During the start of each feeding and at random letdowns I would feel a sinking feeling in my stomach like something really bad was about to happen. I didn't know what was going on with me. I exprienced other symptoms to Post partum Depression when not feeding as well and when I was diagnose with PPD I figured it was a symptom. Because my mom had breast fed I asked her if she had ever experienced what I was experiencing. She freaked out. She had not heard of D-Mer. I told her I had PPD but this was something else. My daughter is going on eight months now. I still feel the symptoms of D-Mer, though not as severely.

Sigrid said:   August 7, 2013 4:55 pm PST
I had my first baby in May 2008, and fortunately a wonderful LLL leader was up to date on what was then brand-new knowledge about d-mer. I didn't end up treating it at all, but this time around I was more motivated, so I tried 100 mg of Wellbutrin for a few weeks, beginning around four weeks after the birth. I think it had some effect, but it made me very irritable, and the last thing anyone needs with a new baby and a five-year-old is a shorter fuse, so I stopped. I think I'm going back to the idea of just enduring it. It helps to try to put it in words when it's happening, especially if someone else is around. There's an almost comical side to how ridiculously over-the-top the emotions are, and it helps to be able to laugh a bit at it once it passes. I start by saying, "I'll just nurse the baby and then..." then pause while let-down happens, and say what comes to mind, e.g., "I'll never be able to get anything accomplished / nothing's ever going to work out / I might as well just give up." I guess it falls in the category of feeling better just being able to identify what's going on. Now can we convince anyone to study us?

Vanessa said:   August 2, 2013 6:57 am PST
Thank you so much for the information you provide in this website. I can tell you it has saved me mentally and emotionally as I had D-MER with my daughter 3 years ago and was diagnosed as having PPD and when those feelings came back when my milk came in with my son, who is now 2.5 months old, I was devastated. I found this website when curious why my PPD was happening when nursing only and it has changed my life and how I am as a mother. I am using Neurapas by Pascoe (the Wellbutrin alternative), Ignatius pellets in water to help manage sadness and eating trail mix in the morning. I also did placenta encapsulation and it helped me tremendously by reducing intensity of D-MER feelings. I will try the decaf coffee as suggested and will be meeting with my ND to talk about the more Moderate-Severe feelings I'm having (agitation, aggression, restlessness, intrusive thoughts, internal rage) as I thought these were just my on lack of sleep and with unsettled hormones (which I'm sure don't help). Anyway, please feel free to email me if you ever do a study. This all really interests me.

SS said:   July 31, 2013 7:27 pm PST
After I had my second child,I felt fleeting feelings of hopelessness whenever i started feeding her and then that would go away.i wondered if I was starting to PPD.But the negative emotions were so strong just seconds into her latching,I easily figured it had to do with hormones.Always having had severe PMS and mood swings during periods and ovulation,it was easy for me to figure this out.I was having supply issues and my doc suggested a medicine to lower dopamine that will increase milk.I came home and researched about it and thats when I heard about D-Mer.I cannot imagine what if I had taken that med that would probably have worsened my mood swings.I diagnose it as mild,and Dmer went away around 2 months.Here are a few things I did that helped me:Drinking decaf coffee,eating almonds,eating a comfort food like a warm pudding,veggi soup etc helped while baby latched.Also talking to a friend,browsing ,reading ,watching movie were distractions too.I asked husband to stay while baby latched so I was not alone in the room and feeling depressed.By drinking Mothers Milk Tea and upping my dietary fat and eating otameal and general lowcarb foods,helped me to increase my supply.Also I recommend Lifetime Prenatals during nursing and Optivite tablets after nursing is done to balance hormones.esp abnormally high prolactin which is what I had after 3 months.Optivite is not to be used while nursing.All the best!

Vera - please reply in email said:   July 30, 2013 12:31 am PST
I had severe D-MER with my first baby. I also had hyperprolactinaemia after having her, due to a microadenoma. For fertility, I took bromocriptin - it worked, my second baby is due in a month. However, I still have the symptoms of hyperprolactinaemia. Bromocriptin is a dopamine agonist and safe in breastfeeding. Would bromocriptin be a sensible solution for D-MER? Please email me with the answer, since I can't access your email address.

Chris said:   June 26, 2013 1:32 pm PST
I experienced this 22 years ago with my daughter, each time my milk "let down". It was a horrible feeling! I gage it was "mild to moderate". I recall feeling: “I need to get away!” “when is this feeling going to end” etc, and of course, it did once the letdown was concluded. I'm glad I found an answer after all these years to that! However, I was not searching for this when I came upon this site. I occasionally have the EXACT same feeling and duration - 30 sec to 2 min, right after orgasm (only if it is daylight). I had googled "anxiety/panic after orgasm" thinking that was it, with 0 results representing the feeling I experience, being the same as when I had breastfeed years ago. This led me to your site. Very curious to know if there is a connection with the two and why or just a coincidence

Anna said:   April 25, 2013 3:21 pm PST
This is very interesting, and certainly more research is called for. As a first time mom, I experience a surge of anxiety or an overwhelming feeling when pumping. Interestingly and fortunately for me, this feeling is much less apparent when breastfeeding. The theory of D-MER makes sense. I would love to see more rigorous studies on the condition and its relationship to breastfeeding vs pumping. Pumping can be stressful for many "you-name-it" reasons. But, with almost a panic feeling during every letdown at the pump seems odd to me. As a mental heath professional, I suspect that something biological may be going on, because no matter what relaxation techniques I tried before pumping, I still feel very anxious right at the beginning. I am so relieved to find other with similar experience and that there is a name for this condition.

Marlana said:   April 24, 2013 6:25 am PST
Thanks for the info!! I told my husband that I could always tell when I was getting ready to have a let down because all of the sudden I would feel nervous and irritable and within seconds after feeling this way, the let down would occur and the feeling would subside. I actually talked with the nutritionist (who encourages breastfeeding) about this and she had no idea why this was happening to me, so I decided to research it for myself and that's when I found your website. I would say that my case is a very mild form of D-MER and I don't need medical intervention to cope with it. In fact I love nursing my little one despite this disorder, and honestly, like your website states, just knowing what is causing it to happen to me, makes all the difference in the world. :)

Regina said:   April 23, 2013 8:46 am PST
Thank you for this site! I experienced D-MER with my first child but never realized it was a chemical / hormonal issue as opposed to an emotional one. I thought breastfeeding was making me sad, but couldn't understand why. It was sometimes very scary. I would feel an intense wave of sadness every time I sat down to feed my daughter or to pump. I pushed through and breastfed until about 15 months ... now I have an infant son and am experiencing D-MER again, this time in the form of anxiety, anger or sadness. He is now 4 months old and the symptoms are beginning to improve. What a relief to find this information! Every woman who plans to breastfeed should know about this.

nikki said:   April 17, 2013 5:49 pm PST
Thank u for your research and time! As soon as I started nursing my 4th child I was getting sad every time I let down. Then I noticed if I could tell when I was going to let down because I would feel the sadness coming on. Even if the baby was away from me. I explained the sadness when I let down to my doc and he acted like I was crazy. :/...I am SO glad I am not crazy and now I can be educated in my problem. :) oh and just for your Info...mine quit when he was 6 months and now at 13 months is back...:( Thanks again!

Kathy D. said:   April 8, 2013 7:59 am PST
I've been wanting to quit nursing for a month now because of the dysphoria it seemed to cause. Luckily, my little one is really stubborn and has been refusing formula. It took a while to figure out what was triggering it. I was afraid to say something because I didn't want my doctor to say it was ppd, and I figured since it only lated a couple minutes I could just push through it. I finally googled it last night when the symptoms were unbearable and started causing me to have panic attacks. I recently started smoking again and am trying to quit again and decided yesterday to drink coffee to help me focus on housework instead of smoking. I believe the culmination of excesses caffeine with nicotine withdrawal was too much for my body to handle yesterday. I've also always experienced brief depression during nipple stimulation. I'm curious to see if those are related. In any case, now that I have an idea what I'm dealing with I can keep it from affecting the rest of my life.

Melissa Redondo said:   March 21, 2013 5:37 am PST
Thank you for this information. I am suffering from D Mer since my pregnancy, feeling stronger symptoms in my last trimester and now, two months after giving birth, I feel the sadness, anxiaty, hollow, overwealming, from my arms to my chest. It is a horrible feeling, and asking all mums I know, no one new what I was feeling was. I knew it was when the milk letdown happened, also pumping and nursing. I will do my best to continue breastfeeding, and I will spread the word. I am glad I am not depressed.

Stephanie said:   March 20, 2013 12:20 pm PST
I'm so glad I found this site. I have been feeling a nervous pit in my stomach feeling during breastfeeding since my baby was a week old. I still get it and he is almost five months now. It only lasts less than a minute and I have gotten used to it. I'm going to keep breastfeeding because I know the feelings will pass and it's worth it to me. My lactation consultant didn't seem to understand what was happening to me when I explained it to her. It's great that there is a site like this for women to go to so they don't feel like they it's all in their head!

Trinety said:   March 11, 2013 3:30 pm PST
It is really amazing how many other women out there are having this experience. I have been nursing my son for 7 months now and started having symptoms of D-Mer around month two. I thought it was just anxiety and sadness about going back to work and not being able to share the bond with him. However the feelings continued at work. One day at work, while just recovering from a sad let-down period, I googled "Sadness while breastfeeding" and lo and behold! It is so relieving to know I am not alone and that my experience is "relatively" normal!

Erika said:   March 8, 2013 9:32 pm PST
Thank you so much for this resource. It is such a relief to know that I'm not alone. My first child is 5 weeks old and I have been struggling with these feelings for the past two weeks. I thought I was just bound to be an awful mother. I feel much better now that I see this is a real thing and not just my imagination!

July said:   March 6, 2013 12:11 pm PST
Thank you very much for researching and bringing into light such priceless information. My daughter is 3 months old and I've been experiencing mild D-MER symphtoms ever since she was born. When I shared my feelings with friends they just had no idea what I was talking about but from the very start I always knew this went beyond the typical postpartum condition...I could feel it was very chemical but I didn't know what it actually was. In the book " What to expect..." ( A book I highly recommend ) they mention the possibility of experiencing anxiety while breastfeeding but unfortunately they don't enlarge on that ...perhaps my version needs to be updated : ) So this is my story so far. I'll try out your advice and let you know what happens. Anyway, thank you very much in advance! You've made my day today!

tabitha said:   February 26, 2013 5:26 pm PST
With my first son, I had very mild feelings of depression, anxiety, and anger when I would breastfeed. It only lasted a few minutes. With my second son, I had the same feelings, but much more intense and these feelings would last for the entire feeding. It was horrible. I'm now expecting my 3rd son, and I just found this information. I'm already dreading breastfeeding, and I feel horribly guilty about it. I'm afraid that the feelings will be even worse this time around since they intensified with my second. i also have the problem that my body never produces more milk than just enough for one feeding, so pumping really isn't an option. Does d-mer also effect the amount of milk produced?

Yvonne said:   February 2, 2013 8:58 pm PST
I am torn. I could not believe I found this website because I have suffered with this for years and Doctors never understood. Neither did any of my friends. BUT I DISAGREE that this is only due to milk coming in. I have experinced the sensations since I was a teen and my breasts were touched by my boyfriend. Please be open to contact me Because I hope for a day when this gets more attention and testing to really narrow down all the facts about this health issue

MrsSmith said:   January 16, 2013 8:51 am PST
I discovered this site while pregnant with my fourth. Finally, I was able to make sense of why I hated breastfeeding. I had tried unsuccessfully to breastfeed my first three. I would cry with every feeding, I hated the thought of the next one. I was a different person while breastfeeding, and it wasnt good. I was so miserable that I would switch to formula around weeks 2-3. I was proactive this go around and spoke to a lactation consultant a few weeks prior to birth. She had not heard of D-MER, but took my concerns seriously and she made a plan with my OB. I was diagnosed as having a severe case and was started on Welbutrin the day after I had my little one. I am now 7 weeks postpartum and I am finally breastfeeding successfully! I don't have the anxiety, the overwhelming dread, and I'm not crying! This experience is night and day to how I felt prior to treatment. Thank you for this site.

Kimberly DeAnda said:   December 19, 2012 8:57 am PST
I need contact info for a dr that can consult with me that has experience treating this. Can u please put me in contact with someone? It is getting worse now I am so dysphoric...please help me. I have been feeling this dysphoria ever since my milk came in, especially got worse and more aggressive when the baby went through his first growth spurt and increased my milk supply. Coupled with a vitamin and mineral deficiency in my blood, I think that it is an very severe and extreme case of D-MER. My name is Kimberly DeAnda, I am 32, my phone number is 956-742-2748 and my email address is Please call me back!!! I DON'T CARE WHAT TIME IT IS I JUST NEED TO FEEL NORMAL AGAIN!!!!! Please!!!

Sonyia said:   November 21, 2012 7:56 am PST
When I just came across this information I almost started to cry! I really thought I was the only woman who ever experienced these feelings and am so grateful to know that there's a cause for it and treatment! Praise God!!!

SC said:   October 17, 2012 7:50 am PST
I just had my third child. I have experienced this with all three children, but the last few weeks with my new baby have been rough and I just putting it together that I have a horrible emotional response to breastfeeding and decided to go online to see if anyone else has a similar experience. I have never heard of anyone else having this. It is refreshing to know that I am not alone.

NK said:   September 30, 2012 12:28 pm PST
Finding this page and these quotes was such a relief. I felt like there was something seriously wrong with me. Every time I sit to nurse or pump I have this tremendous feeling of dread which is validated by a horrible hollow feeling much like homesickness for the first three minutes or so of pumping or nursing. I think this feeling affected how long it took to bond with my baby because I associated these negative feelings with her. No one understood what I was talking about and I felt like I was scaring my friends and family with how negative I was. Finding a physiological reason for it helps me anticipate and weather the waves of negative feelings.

Leyla said:   September 27, 2012 4:52 pm PST
Diddn't know why I had this feeling till i read this site. Does it have bad effects for the child? Should I stop feeding because of these bad emotions? I know now it's hormonal and not me thinking bad. Is this threateble and how?

Melissa said:   September 11, 2012 6:04 pm PST
Thank you so much for finally explaining what I've been experiencing since my son's birth last month! None of my family or friends knew what I was talking about when I told them what happened during feedings. I feel so comforted to know that other women experience this as well and that I'm not abnormal!

Rhoda said:   September 1, 2012 1:37 am PST
What a relief this site has brought me! I was nursing my 5 month old baby when I felt it again -that depressing feeling like the whole world is coming down on me- then I just grabbed the laptop beside me and googled 'feeling depressed when breastfeeding' and found this website... i've kept this feeling to myself but nowi'm definitely sharing this to my husband..

Daphne said:   July 13, 2012 10:28 am PST
Ahh, so tháts what it is! I googled 'bad thoughts during breastfeeding' and finally found this site. (Dutch google didn't give an answer) I fed my son for a year and now my daughter for over 15 months but there are always nasty thoughts popping up in my head when I nurse. Things like my kids having accidents, the horrible things I heard in the news etc. At first I thought it was because when nursing and being so close to your child makes you realize how precious life is, and blamed it on the hormones. But now it has been so long since the last pregnancy and I am feeling like my old self it seemed so weird that I kept feeling like this during te feeding. But now here is the answer! And I am not alone apparently, and not a nutcase.. ;-) Thanks a lot!

Chrissy said:   June 24, 2012 10:04 am PST
What a great resource. It's encouraging to know I'm not the only one. I am having a much easier nursing experience with my second baby, so I was confused that I was feeling so down when I nursed. This site has given me some answers. Is there a support group available anywhere?

JennyP said:   June 18, 2012 1:40 pm PST
I'm so grateful for this site and suggestions and others experience with this stuff. My sensations are hopelessness, isolation, and that churning in my stomach. I do struggle with depression and it helps to know that these brief moments are the result of something more. I'm going to try and figure out which coping tool will work best for me, but for now, I know what to call these feelings. I keep thinking, there is such a lack of talk between mothers...about unpleasant issues. I wonder if its bc so many of us are programmed to immediately believe its a flaw to have any issues...I'm so thankful I can reach out to others who just want support like me.

Amy said:   June 18, 2012 10:18 am PST
I think I have a very bad case of D Mer. and have been nursing my son for 2yrs now, I am so frustrated and want to stop because of how horrible I feel when I nurse

Julie said:   June 13, 2012 2:25 pm PST
Thank you for this site! I have a very mild case of D-MER. I just would feel sad just before/during letdown. This only happened when I was pumping and not directly breastfeeding (though the direct breastfeeding hurt so much that maybe I was occupied with that instead of how I was feeling emotionally!). I find that the more milk I have, the greater the likelihood of having the sad feelings. I also found that if I took a drink of something just as the feelings came, it made me feel much better much faster. Not sure if anyone else has found this or can use this information!

Elizabeth said:   June 12, 2012 3:45 pm PST
My first child wouldn't latch correctly and I pumped for about 6 weeks with no D-MER symptoms. I did have post-partum depression though (not much of a support system along with a child with colic). But, with my second, I breastfed and experienced a sense of doom about 5-10 seconds before letdown. It was like all of a sudden my life was over and the ceiling was going to cave in an kill me. I can only imagine it to be the emotions of utter hopelessness and desperation that someone would feel right before they committed suicide. Obviously, this was not a thought or option, but it was bad. This went on, decreasing in intensity, for about 2 months then it went away completely as my body adjusted to breastfeeding. About the time my breasts stopped leaking involuntarily maybe. I nursed my son until he was one year old. But, I can remember how awful it was...enough to make you throw in the towel altogether. No one should have to go through that and I am grateful to have found this site and given the statistics of women who have improved over time. That was the reason I kept at it and it did, in fact, go away. I wish all women out there would find out about this disorder if they have it. Thank you.

Jenn said:   May 29, 2012 9:00 pm PST
Thank you for having this info available. Just knowing that I'm not the only one who experiences this instantly made me feel better, and able to ride the wave of emotions without getting pulled under.

Melissa said:   May 17, 2012 1:52 pm PST
Thank you so much for this information. I felt like I was going crazy, feeling this awful wave of sadness every time I nursed. It really helps to know what causes it and that, hopefully, it won't last the whole time I breastfeed.

Amanda said:   May 3, 2012 11:08 am PST
Thanks so much for letting me know that I am not the only one out there. I knew I was not making this up and it all makes sense now. Please continue to research. I am so glad to have found this site. I am taking the info to my dr. at my Postpartum visit in a couple of weeks. I know he will be interested to read about this.

april said:   April 16, 2012 8:29 pm PST
WOW so happy to have this information, I have been experiencing this for the past 8 months. I will say it has got better as my daughter is older. I plan on nursing at least a year but is has been very hard at times. Thank you for creating this site no one has understood my feelings.

Rose said:   April 8, 2012 3:58 pm PST
Wow, I definitely had/have this condition too. I am so surprised there is not more information available about it! I will say that I had my placenta encapsulated and I really think that taking the placenta pills helped with the D-Mer a lot. I still have some left and I take a couple when I'm feeling a little off. My D-Mer was not severe, but I definitely felt that sense of dread, and just crappy. I also remember being really sensitive about my husband watching me nurse the baby when I was feeling that way. Thanks for you work in this website!

Hana said:   March 23, 2012 3:01 pm PST
I came across your web address and information in "The Womanly Art of Breastfeding" and felt more at peace. I kept reading that breastfeeding is not tiring or draining but sometimes I felt sad when my little boy was feeding and just knew something was not right. Its only a small sadness but having suffered from depression many years ago I knew that feeling all to well. But it only lasted while he was feeding than I was fine. I just never would have thought there was a name for this and that other women felt the same way. Well done for lighting up my life. Thank-you. x

Brooke said:   March 18, 2012 7:54 am PST
I was so glad to have an explanation for this. I always described it to my husband as a wave of despair, and that I could understand why people killed themselves! As horrible and alarming as that sounds, that is how I felt for those few seconds to half a minute each time. Then it would go and all was well again. My husband used to say he could see it come over me each time I was truly horrible. But now I know what it's all about and I anticiated it for my third baby and just rode it out. I only experienced it for my second and third babies and it was an absolute shock when it happened and kept happening. The human body certainly is amazing. There are answers and there is a light at the end - and I'm not crazy!

Kim said:   March 7, 2012 6:54 pm PST
I feel this way with my son, but not my daughter (I am tandem nursing). At first I thought it was because I didn't like my son, or that I loved my daughter more! He is older, and I ALWAYS felt so sad and angry and anxious before letdown with him. But never with her, even at the begining when it was the worst with my son. Now I know that it's because, for whatever reason, I have a letdown VERY quickly after my daughter latches on but there is quite a delay between when I have a letdown and when my son latches on. SO GLAD I love BOTH my children equally! Ah! I thought I was crazy!

Ms.Dove said:   March 6, 2012 1:26 pm PST
I also feel I have D-MER and am thankful to have found this information--my lactation consultant still looked at me like I was nuts after I told her of the condition. It is interesting for me to read where other moms are feeling the D-MER manifesting physically in the body--several have said they feel it in their chest. Strangely enough, I feel it in the back of my throat (glands maybe?) and my lower jaw/teeth. So weird, I know. Or is it? You tell me. :-)

Debbie Gillespie said:   February 26, 2012 8:51 am PST
I skimmed this information during the discussion on the private practice LC Yahoo group just last month. Thanks to this discussion, I immediately identified D-MER as the cause of this mother's totally unexpected and uncontrolled feelings that plagued her since her baby was born just a few days earlier. It was a huge relief to the mother to understand what was happening and why. I shared this web link with her so she could explain to her family that it wasn't "just the baby blues." She was so grateful that (1) she had options other than trying to ignore or put up with it, and (2) I made it her decision how to proceed. Thank you for offering this incredibly valuable resource!

Marolyn said:   February 16, 2012 5:36 pm PST
My daughter will be three weeks and I have been feeling this same sadness right at the times I am breastfeeding her. At other times I'm happy so I have been feeling confused and wondering if I was experiencing PPD. It makes so much sense now why I am physically feeling this sadness in my chest. I am hoping this will change because I do not want to give up on breastfeeding.

K.G. said:   February 6, 2012 5:27 pm PST
I'm so glad I found this site. I had this same problem with my first child. I just had my second. I asked other people if they've felt this way and I thought I was the only one - that I was probably doing something wrong or that it was a sign of PPD. Finding this information means so much to me, I want to keep breastfeeding for my child, I hope knowing more about D-MER will help me get through it.

Annie said:   January 24, 2012 2:15 pm PST
Oh sweet! I always heard about the "lovey-dovey" feelings that go with breastfeeding as well as the sleepy ones. But I only felt sleepy and briefly, intensely dysphoric. It doesn't bother me because it passes quickly and was always timed right with the physical sensation of letdown which is also very strong for me. I also was diagnosed with PPD, but it didn't feel related to the d-mer at all. My sister is the only other person I know who has this experience with breastfeeding. I'm delighted to read about the mechanism behind this experience.

Jess said:   January 18, 2012 9:03 am PST
Thank God I finally found out that I'm not alone! I thought I was crazy!!! I'm lucky that I seem to have a mild case of D-MER since I've been dealing with it for 7 months now. I hate it so much though. I haven't told anyone because I didn't even know how to describe it.

Jessica said:   January 4, 2012 1:01 pm PST
I suffer from anxiety (D-MER) when nursing that originally presented itself (I thought) as extreme thirst. So I drink a lot of water when nursing or pumping. Since my son was about 4 months old, it is very rare I have this anxiety when nursing-- but I get extreme anxiety, depressed mood, homesickness for the first few minutes of pumping when I'm at work. The feeling of "dread" actually starts when I am assembling my pump parts and continues for a few minutes into the pumping process.

Paula said:   December 12, 2011 11:46 pm PST
Has anyone tried to pump milk into a bottle instead of actually nursing to help with D-MER? I felt like this for the 1st month that my daughter was born but I didn't realize it was an actual "condition" until my friend told me about it. The anxiety I felt only lasted a few minutes and was not very severe, and only lasted for about a month whereas my friend's lasted a very long time each time she nursed, lasted for almost a year and required medication. I wonder what I felt wasn't as bad because I pumped and didn't actually nurse. Just a thought. I hope someone can try and let us all know.

Sophie said:   December 6, 2011 1:51 pm PST
I think this is what I am suffering from. I experience it both during pumping and breastfeeding, and it's an awful feeling of hopelessness and depression. It lasts for about 30 seconds to a minute, and can occur several times during the breastfeeding/pumping session. I'm glad I found this site and name to this, as others I have talked to cannot relate. If there is any need for volunteers for D-Mer research, please contact me!

Kate said:   December 4, 2011 9:24 pm PST
I've suffered from anxiety-related issues for years, and nursing made me feel panicky, overwhelmed, and sick to my stomach... even angry and frustrated at times, which scared me (what kind of a mother feels angry at a peacefully breastfeeding newborn??) I'm still nursing 4.5 months later, and the D-MER seems to have gotten a little easier with time. It is SO good to find out I'm not crazy, and not the only person that deals with these bizarre feelings!

KT said:   December 4, 2011 11:40 am PST
I literally cried with relief when found this website. I exclusively pump and thought I was going crazy because of the way I feel. Apparently, mine falls under anxiety. It is like having very short very intense panic attacks. The feeling is so overwhelming that I cannot breathe or talk when it hits, but after letdown the feeling immediately stops. If only this information were made available to every new mother! It is wonderful to finally put a name to these feelings! Thank you!!!

Helena said:   November 20, 2011 9:01 pm PST
I thought I had postpartum blues. I knew it had to do with breastfeeding and felt really guilty about it but I am relieved I'm not alone.... but unfortunately the result is weaning at 3 weeks postpartum.

Danielle said:   November 18, 2011 1:22 pm PST
I have never felt so validated!! I was so relieved when I found this website (completely by accident- or divine intervention)...I had described my symptoms to many people over the past 3 years ( I breastfed my daughter for a year and am now breastfeeding my son) and was always made to feel crazy. Good news..I am not crazy. Thanks so much : ) Please continue to research this phenomenon.

Terry said:   November 12, 2011 2:18 pm PST
Thank you so much for this web-site. I felt I was going to be a horrible mother because of how I was feeling when I was breastfeeding. A counsultant at the hospital explain what was happening and directed me to this site. Now I know I am not a horrible new mother. It's nice to know I am not alone.

Ruth said:   November 7, 2011 6:55 pm PST
This is soo good to read and find that I am not the only one. I gave up feeding my last baby because the feelings were so bad and I had couldn't deal with it! I am pregnant again and would really like to be able to breastfeed but I have been having these exact same feelings during and after sex so am guessing it may manifest again with this baby. Does anyone else have this problem during intercourse?

Kat said:   October 26, 2011 3:56 am PST
Thanks so much for this information, it's taken me a little while to realise I had this feeling of anxiety and panic during breastfeeding and NOT because I was sitting down and "relaxing". I honestly believed it was guilt because I was not doing enough! I never experienced this with my first baby whom I breastfed for 13 months, but now I know what this is, I can discuss it with my health visitor and take steps to eliminate/ control it. Thank you.

shauna said:   October 24, 2011 1:50 am PST
all i can say right now is thank you. thank you so much. im crying tears of relief because im not alone. thank you so much.

newbabyjoys said:   October 4, 2011 1:07 pm PST
Thanks for the site! I thought I was losing my mind! So glad to know I am not alone and that there is a legitimate cause for my symptoms. What a relief!

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